Whats With the Myth That Easy Women Are Cheap?
Following on from another question here about men who think badly of women who are “easy to get into bed”
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjgB9f.WK9UpMEXz4T8kNZoYxgt.;_ylv=3?qid=20081204101626AAQrFke
There does seem to be a certain attitude that a woman who does so lacks class, or plenty worse things.
I don’t know if this is a cultural issue, but it certainly contradicts my own experience.
In Europe, and in the uk specifically, most every woman I know who doesn’t make a fuss delaying sex has been non religious, middle class and university educated.
The women I’ve encountered who do make a fuss tend to be traditional working class women with very little economic security who need to trade on their sexuality to marry up.
So in fact my experienced reality is the opposite of the popular myth. Women who are educated and have a good income, or the expectation of one can choose a partner at will, and choose to have sex as early as they like. Because their security doesn’t depend on it.
Women who delay and delay tend to be doing so either because they are religious, or because their value in the eyes of the men they want to attract relies on their “purity”. It’s a commodity to these women.
Whats with the myth that easy women are cheap?
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Women put down other women who drive the price down because they are a threat.
Easy women are usually women who are desperately seeking validation and love from a man. They think if they sleep with a man this man will love them. In reality that is not the case so they sleep with more men until it “sticks” which oftentimes it doesn’t. So in essence, men and boys who sleep with these women because they are easy are actually just using her and adding to her already screwed up sense of self esteem.
Men and women do not have the same ideas on sex. Women get attached, men do not. It’s some kind of chemical hormonal thing. So think twice before sleeping with that easy girl… you may just be one more guy on the list in your opinion, but she may see you as one more guy who hurt her or used her.
Here’s a thought – some women who are saving sex aren’t doing it because they want to trade it for security. They do it because they think they are worth waiting for, because they think sex is too special to be wantonly enjoyed with every latest crush (or every hot drunk guy at the bar….), that kind of thing. There are plenty of reasons for waiting other than the ones you’ve mentioned here. Maybe you need to meet some different women….or change the way you look at the ones you know. Do you really think they’re all viewing their bodies as a commodity to “marry up”?
as i said in my answer on same question the women who are scared to enjoy sex cause they want it lack self esteem cause they care what others might think. they also see sex as something they give to a man and the man will be on a site like this in years to come moaning his wife is frigid and has never been in to sex and the woman will moan that she isnt satisfied and her husband hasnt ade her ****** in 20years. check out marriage and divorce that makes up most of the questions lol.
i agree with you and gave you a thumbs up on the question you are talking about
Edit: sorry Mrs S but many women enjoy sex for sexs sake.
They use the word “cheap” in the sense that they’re giving their bodies too easily. Labeling a woman cheap has nothing to do with how much money she has or how educated she is. Women are judged purely on their sexual activity, in cases like these. A woman who is not “cheap” apparently values her body too much to jump into sex too easily.
I don’t agree with these views, but that’s what I get from the public perception. In any case, people who wait to delay sex aren’t necessarily using it as a “trade-off” either. I can understand both sides of the story, and people have every right to go which way they choose. I know what it feels like to want to jump into sex, and what it feels like to want to wait for the right person. There’s good and bad on both sides of the coin.
EDIT: I get a thumbs down just for explaining how some people who use the word “cheap” feel? Just trying to give the guy perspective, lol. Who CARES if people have different sexual views?
Mrs.S-Men can get attached to sex. I’ve seen men in FWB/casual sex encounters that can’t let go of the female, where the female is trying to get the heck away from the guy It’s just that they can’t verbally express their attachment, but the attachment is expressed in the guy’s actions. I think people understimate the emotional/psychological component of sex..no strings attached sex can affect men and wome more than they think.
I DESPISE people who judge other’s in this way. Male or fermale, if you chose a varied and active sex life that is totally your prerogative in my book. It’s of NO consequence to anybody else!
With Women, yes it’s true women are criticised, ridiculed and degraded by society for being adventurous sexually.
I believe this has more to do with the perception that she is powerful and taking control of her own sexuality – and this is particularly unfavorable amongst religious groups and different cultures!
I don’t socialise with people who are bit*chy, nasty or judgemental in these issues. As long as people are safe, having an active sex life is fine!
Easy sex is never cheap – you either pay for it now… or you pay for it later.
You hit it right on.
Eoghan got it, too. If some/many women are having a lot of sex without trading it as a commodity, it lowers the value of the sex that is traded for money and shelter.
So, of course other women will be the first to throw out the insults.
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Also, anyone who claims they are not holding out for the sake of trading it as a commodity, and then using the term WORTH waiting for… well, they just aren’t putting two and two together.
When you purposely lower the supply, it’s done so in hopes of raising the value. And there’s no point in giving something value unless you expect something in return.
Be it, love, money, respect, attention, time… Clearly, the simply enjoyment of being intimate with the other person isn’t the only goal.
that women still a childish people,still looking for identity of theirselves.
and they look around,they find that sex is a way,where they can get fun,money,all a woman want.
so,u treat them like what?
they still women
“Cheap” and “easy” are synonymous adjectives used in slang to describe women who sleep around, as pointed out above by Damsel.
As for myths, I’m not aware of them. Your personal experience in the UK is that upper-class woman are more likely to have sex than blue-collar women or religious women. My personal experience in the US is that divinity students, other highly religious women, women with little money, women from very blue-collar backgrounds… none of them make a fuss delaying sex, as you put it.
I think our personal experiences ought not to be extrapolated to society as a whole. But there does seem to be a consensus on this board, at least, that there ought not to be a double standard about who gets to have sex when they want to, and I’d agree with that.
that’s really an over generalization.
i have a really good education, am liberal and make a fuss about sex – i usually wait quite a while.